If you are getting married in a church, synagogue or other house of worship, there are some key questions to keep in mind. Many churches book up for wedding dates far in advance, so it should be one of the first items you reserve, and if getting married in a certain church is important to you, then it is something you should book even before finding a location to hold your reception.

Are there any requirements for pre-marital counseling or classes?
Some pastors and priests require that you attend a certain number of pre-marital counseling or marriage preparation classes in order to get married in their church while others don't. Decide as a couple if this is something you want to do before you commit to getting married in a certain location.

Are there are dress code requirements for the bridal party or guests?
There have been brides who have gotten to the door of their church only to learn that their bare shoulders aren't allowed and had to find a makeshift shawl in order to walk down the aisle.  Check these requirements up front, and if needed, budget for a bolero or dress with sleeves for the ceremony portion of your wedding.

Are there any restrictions on photography or videography?
Not allowing photo or video for parts of the wedding isn't a dumb rule - for some religions and denominations it violates or interrupts the sacredness of the ceremony.  Be respectful of this and do your photographers and cinematograpers a favor by finding out beforehand where and what they can or cannot shoot.  If they are not allowed to document any part of the ceremony, you may face the tough decision of choosing between getting married at that particular church or finding another location that allows for photos.

Are there any guidelines or rules involving floral or decor?
In some churches, the floral arrangements are considered a sacrament and so they are left as an offering and can't be taken to the reception.  In others, live plants can only be used as it is symbolic of God's creation and coming from the earth.  Yet, in other churches, silk is preferred so that water damage or other allergens don't mar the sanctuary.  Some places allow pew decorations and aisle runners; others don't.  Again, these rules aren't arbitrary, there are reasons behind them, so be sure to know what you are agreeing to when you sign a contract to reserve the space.

Are there rules concerning music?
Do you have to use the church organist? Does the music have to be live and on "pure" instruments (eg: a real piano vs an electric piano) or can you pop in a CD with a prerecorded song for your processional? Are there certain types of music that are considered inappropriate for this particular house of worship (eg: some churches allow percussion instruments and others do not)? The answers to these questions can directly affect your wedding budget and should be taken into consideration when you are choosing a ceremony location.

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